The Woman I Am (A birthday tribute to those who helped shape me)


birthday photoI have always been taken

with things that have age

and history –

It is not growing older

that bothers me

it’s the realization

that time is fleeting

time is fickle –

time is ephemeral –


But I also know  –

time is also precious

and with age comes wisdom

and I know what’s important


When I was a child

I hid parts of myself

even to my own eyes

I would wrap myself

in a towel

and change my clothes

 under bed sheets

ashamed of my early development


Now I walk from the shower

to my bedroom

in nothing


the lavender oil

that anoints my body

And I’m proud

of the woman I’ve become

Because I am the daughter

of Larry and Peggy

and the granddaughter

of James and Dorothea

and the sister of Jason


And these people

shaped who I am

their blood is my blood

their particles are my particles

and my heart beats to their rhythm.


And to hide myself

would be an injustice to them

So I will stand as proud as the lavender

that basks in the sun

and blows in the wind

before becoming the oil

that anoints my body


And on this day of my birth

I will bask in their light

and feel their breath on my skin

because what’s important

is family

and love

and making the most

of fleeting time

©Kristian L. Weigman
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34 Responses to The Woman I Am (A birthday tribute to those who helped shape me)

  1. The V Pub says:

    Happy Birthday, Kristian! Have a great day celebrating your birthday, but beware that there are establishments that require you to wear more than just lavender oil. 😉

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  2. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    Happy birthday!

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  3. simplywendi says:

    wishing you a very blessed Birthday – Day! 🙂

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  4. Sadje says:

    Lovely poem and tribute to your family. A very happy birthday 🎁

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  5. drjurisharma says:

    Happy Birthday 🎉God Bless !

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  6. Hippy Bathday, Kristian 😎

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  7. Hilary Tan says:

    Happy Birthday, Kristian! 🎂🎉

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  8. Happy Birthday Kristian and that was beautiful!

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  9. Laura Beth says:

    Happy Birthday!! I hope it’s been wonderful!

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  10. Lovely! Happy Birthday🎉🎉

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  11. happy birthday from another Larry. From the looks of your picture aging shouldn’t be a major concern of yours at your age

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    • kristianw84 says:

      Thank you!! Yes, I have been told I look younger than I am. Wrinkles will inevitably appear, but it just means I laughed a lot, so I’m not really concerned with aging. I just wish I had the ability to slow time down a bit, to be able to stretch out the minutes and hours I have left with my loved ones.

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  13. W.S.Thompson says:

    Beautifully written!!! Happy Happy Birthday

    Liked by 1 person

  14. Charli Dee says:

    Oh I love it! Such a beautiful poem!

    Liked by 1 person

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