I came across Fandango’s Flashback Friday post, and I thought this was such a great idea that I decided to follow suit. I didn’t actually post anything on June 28th, 2016, but when I came across this post, I thought it would be a good one to share because on this day, three years ago, we said our final goodbyes to Neil’s beloved aunt as she was laid to rest. And in the past few weeks I have really been feeling the loss of my own mother, there’s so many things I miss doing with her that I hadn’t really thought of until recently. Grief is funny like that, it ebbs and flows. But I’m left with smiles this Friday as I think of those I’ve lost. For grief, while painful, is also a reminder of a heart that is full of love.
Love & life lessons,
There is a song by James Taylor called “Fire and Rain,” the chorus in that song goes:
“I’ve seen fire and I’ve seen rain.
I’ve seen sunny days that I thought would never end.
I’ve seen lonely times when I could not find a friend,
But I always thought that I’d see you again.”
This chorus is what comes to mind when I think of the loss of a dear loved one just last week. Her loss was sudden and unexpected.
I have wanted to write about grief for quite some time now, but I kept putting it off because the losses I have experienced up until now were expected, and I had time to say my goodbyes. The loss of my mother is still by far the hardest loss I have ever had to endure. My grandmother and Neil’s grandfather were very hard too. This past week we lost Neil’s aunt, and I’m not going to go into details, because that’s not my place. I will say that my heart breaks for her children, as I sympathize with them. The loss of a mother is not a fun club to be a part of, and Neil, unfortunately; is in that club too. My heart breaks for Neil’s uncle, who has just lost the love of his life, I can only imagine what that feels like, but I imagine that would be the greatest loss of someone’s life. My heart breaks for Neil, and anyone who had the pleasure of knowing his aunt! She was a remarkable woman, and this just isn’t fair, she was taken far too soon!
For me, it’s something I feel will never stop. People who say “Time heals all wounds,” are full of crap! Time does not heal, time does not ease the pain, the only thing time does is make the loss more bearable because time goes on, life goes on. Yes, sadly; life is not fair!
One minute you’re going about your normal, everyday routine, and the next, you find yourself crying over this insurmountable loss.
The dictionary describes grief as: “A natural response to the loss of someone or something very dear to us. Losses that may lead to grief include the death or separation of a loved one, loss of a job, death or loss of a beloved pet, or any number of other changes in life such as divorce, becoming an “empty nester” or retirement.”
Is something anyone who is grieving needs a great deal of.
Is something I want to give to all of those who are grieving at the moment. Your loved one may have left this world, but they have not left you. They are still with you every day.
Revelations 21:4 says “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
I can take comfort in knowing that Grandma Bateman, Neil’s mom (Sharon) Grandpa Grab, my mom (Peggy), and Aunt Pat will never again feel pain or suffering. From here to eternity, there will only be tears of joy shed from their eyes. Hopefully you can take comfort in knowing that of your loved ones too.
So for each of you who are reading this, I leave you with this song by the Eagles, called “I Wish You Peace.” Whether you lost your loved one(s) yesterday or years ago, I hope you find comfort in this song.
Love & life lessons,