Compliments

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There is a lady I used to work with and when she retired I wrote in her card “How blessed am I to have known someone that makes saying goodbye so hard?” She hugged me and cried and told me she wasn’t used to receiving such compliments. This saddened me, and I’ve made it a point ever since then to compliment people when I notice something that stands out about them. I try my best to compliment people’s writing. I know as a writer how good that feels when someone says “You’re a really good writer.” My Amanda told me I was phenomenal, and it moved me to tears. I don’t think anyone has ever said anything I’ve done is phenomenal! I compliment my colleagues, my family and friends, and complete strangers! I tell people all of the time that I love their eyes, or smile, or laugh.

I’m not the boss, but I am second in command, and when my colleagues go above and beyond, I tell them I notice their efforts. I buy them gift cards or their favorite candy, I’ve made them cupcakes and cookies, and I’m not trying to brag, I’m trying to stress the importance of bringing people up. The world is full of bullies and mean people and I think it’s important show appreciation and give a nice compliment once in a while.

What’s the best compliment someone can receive?

  • “I love how you view the world.” There’s a Christopher Poindexter quote about this, and he says it’s as if someone is saying your eyes are art. I just love that!! I’d melt into a puddle if someone said that to me. Gahh!

christopher poindexter

Love & life lessons,

Kristian

 

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14 Responses to Compliments

  1. The Eclectic Contrarian says:

    “I’m not the boss, but I am second in command, and when my colleagues go above and beyond, I tell them I notice their efforts.”

    That’s outstanding! Build up! Don’t be a destroyer!

    I also use compliments as a constructive tool. If I like something, I’m going to tell you. If I don’t, I will tell you. I believe this complimenting as well.

    I like honesty. Flattery is vain. And can be a lie. Just tell me how you really feel!

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    • kristianw84 says:

      I agree. Flattery is nice, but honesty is far more important. And yes, constructive criticism is necessary, my colleagues get a lot of that too! Lol!!

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      • The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        Good boss! 👍

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      • kristianw84 says:

        Thanks! There’s a good chance in three or four years I will be taking over my supervisors position. I think it’s important for my staff to know I’m here for them, I’ll always have their backs, and I wouldn’t dare speak ill of them to anyone, but if they do something that requires reprimanding, I am not afraid dish it out. Above all I need them to trust me as a supervisor, but I also want them to feel comfortable enough to come to me if they’re feeling overwhelmed, as they do now. I also get my hands dirty, I’m not above doing the same work as the low man on the totem pole.

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      • The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        I really respect that! People think going up the ladder means you serve them… no, it’s actually the other way around.

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      • kristianw84 says:

        Very true! I also co-run a free income tax prep service, and I am constantly praising my volunteers! I literally couldn’t run this program without them, so I always let them know how much I appreciate them! There’s a special place in heaven for people who volunteer!

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      • The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        I’ll agree with that! Volunteer work is from the heart.

        You’re quite the busy lady!

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      • kristianw84 says:

        Yeah, but it makes the winter go by quickly, and fortunately I have a lot of help so it’s not so much on one person. I won’t lie, I get pretty stressed out sometimes.

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      • The Eclectic Contrarian says:

        I can imagine! God bless you! You’re a hard worker!

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      • kristianw84 says:

        Thank you! I get it from my daddy. He taught me to put my all into everything I do.

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  2. The Hinoeuma says:

    It takes a special person to criticize constructively and make the person *want* to improve. It also takes a special person to deliver a compliment with honest intent. The world is drowning in complainers and insincere ass kissers. ❤

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  3. I love your post, I really enjoyed reading it. Keep on writing the world needs more people like you.

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